Ever expanding circle of friends :)

Began the day at the solicitors, sorting out the final ramifications of my divorce, calling for a coffee at Millhouses Park, with my good mate on my friend on my return. Eeeeeeek I visited the nurse for a dressing change, and suggested to her that we chase up the lymphoedema nurse, because I cant see how, my scars gonna knit together, when it's been pulled apart constantly by the swelling in my left ankle. (I'm not selling myself very well, am I?) I have to tackle a busy junction, and cross over a dual carriageway on Jezza, to get to the Drs, I feel so confident doing that now, because of the fantastic extended wing mirror, that West Country Recumbents supplied. Zoomed upto school after for my children.

That evening, I arranged to meet at the local, a guy from CTC, who I had chatted to on the Inclusive Cycling Forum. Along with my usual mates and children at the pub for some food. It was freezing out, litrally. And I must ask my local if they can provide somewhere for me to park up. Dave left me, I gave him directions to the train station in Dronfield, and off he drudged up a massively steep hill. But atleast he'll soon be warm!!

Am I mad?

I received information, about a job vacancy and possibly I could have done it. And I am quite sure if I'd have applied I stood a reasonable chance of actually getting it. And that terrified me!! I don't often admit to being so affected by my brain damage, or is it just the stigma of suffering from brain damage? that effects me so, just sometimes though my life is too busy for 'work'. My life's so good at the moment, to think that I'd have to give up Cycle For Health, perhaps collecting my children from school, my BIRRP meetings, the ICDH course, my health championship work. I'd give up so many things which make my life feel good, and for what? More money? urm...no thank's I'd rather be poor, and keep happy. But having tossed and turned all night, to finally come up with that answer, I don't feel fab with myself :( There I'm stripped to the bones, and revealed my inner fears.

Cycled the school run, my wee boy had football, so raced home. My daughter on the other hand rushed home to play on 'facebook' !!

Fantastic News!!

Sorry to be so focused, but I have been in denial, as to how much my leg was worrying me. :) Anyway nursey today, said she didn't want to see me till Friday and that I really shouldn't be fretting. Before today, when I've asked is it getting better? The nurse, has always resembled a builder giving a quote. Pursing their lips, and shaking their head.

My day started with hassle, as my booked taxi driver had rang and said he was at NGH and it was 9.00!!! 'Oh I thought I'd av time' he said.

I entered my IDCH class a little late, but everyone was really welcoming, and was nice about it. It upsets me being dependant at times, on folk that I can't rely on. But I do seem to spend my life in taxis, and on the whole I enjoy a good banter with the drivers. Which has made me consider applying for the job, training taxi drivers about clients with disabilities. I think I could do it, but it all depends on whether I could have a taxi too and from my house :D

Nathan, the only black guy in the class, immediately stood up and offered to make me a drink, I've always got on well with him since the first week. When he correctly identified, that we had both been victims of discrimination. And again, he seemed to understand, my feeling of helplessness, how beautiful was that?

We all had to draw a tree, the roots been our foundations, (past) the trunk our strong structure (is that just me :D) It wasn't just me though, because some of the folk in the class had been to hell and back!!! (and I'm sure I could never have survived some of the things I heard. And 'yes' I do think that folk with a cocktail of experiences, do become better equipped at dealing with life's negative blows. But contrary to this, I do not neccersarily believe a person needs to have been through something. In order to counsel another going through that pain. Because what works for one, may not work for another. And we are all made up of such a rich tapestry of colours and experiences. As the 'tree exercise' showed.

Personally speaking, surprisingly it isn't my accident, that nearly destroyed me. Although I did in fact spend time receiving 'Gestalt' therapy because of it. It was when my ex husband left me, for my bezzy mate and her 2 children. But you know now? I am so glad he did because I am such a strong woman, and that was never realised before, I was just his side kick! But it struck me today, I think everyone in the class is going, through a positive stage in their life, which is reflected, in their behaviour and the fact that we are all happy and supportive of one another.

Talking of past fads, and whether they're healthy? My daughter had to have her lunch (like it would have been in the war) I've just packed her bread and dripping (yuk) and Soreen Malt loaf. I imagine the Malt loaf, is healthy, but I doubt the dripping is.

blow the cobwebs away

I could have been ill today, but instead I took my trike to the shops and beyond. Smiling and talking to folk as I peddled, People ranging from a gang of teenage boys/men, to a 90 year old man. Who agreed to be interviewed by my daughter, for a school project. Honestly people are so nice, if you give them a bit of time I find. I think it's Jezz, she attracts humility, from myself and others.

De`ja' vu

Today My children and I went for a short ride of a mile or so, uphill in rough terrain, upto Holmesfield and then back calling at the pub. To meet Julie Andrews, for a drink and some lunch. The track we were on, got steep in one bit, and I cacked myself, as I just had visions of New Yearts Day. Luckily I was able to do a 6 point turn, and head back. (Ey I must av learnt something that fateful day!!) We passed Ralph the Pony, and I promised him I'd be back.

I loved leaving the pub sober for a change!!! and I was able to ride Jezz home. It's 10pm and Julie 's gone home, worst for wear. It was good fun though.

BIRRP

Today was spent putting myself about a bit, firstly a taxi to 'Zest' , where I do my Health Champions thing. Where we discussed many subjects, including pantomimes, Cycle For Health, an article I was writing for the CTC, it was great feeling so supported.

I then went next door, to another meeting with the Brain Injury Rehabilitation Research Partnership, where I was to be chair this week, with a little help from Alistair. I spoke of my cycling injury. I feel repected and empowered, in every aspect of my life, but that doesn't stop me being mushy, when my children say 'Mummy, can we sleep in your bed tonight!!'

Forgot to mention, I zoomed upto school, I must admit I was a tad disappointed, at how difficult it was to get Jezz unleashed, and even harder to secure her. It was great, to be at school though. The kids and I have planned a bike ride in the morning, calling at the pub, on our return. How exciting!!!!

:)

Safe and secure :)

I'm ready and waiting, urm....for my new trike. Today I had a concrete floor laid in my shed with a split chain that I can padlock, over my bike to secure it.

CFH, DRS, SCHOOL RUN :)

I am tired, but in a nice kinda comfy and full way, and sooo content. I grabbed my wing mirror on the way out to the cab, that was taking Jezz and I to Cycle For Health.


'Fantastic' I said when I arrived, as I handed Ken my wing mirror, and reminded him, that he had said he would fix it for me :) And then John (my very own Mr Potts) presented me with 2 blocks of wood on string loops, hand brakes in case your wondering. I felt very supported but not looked after, in a patronising way.

I worked with Ken and Barry doing some road work. Which to be fair, I kinda know, but it was good to be reassured. Barry later came to the Drs with me, because the nurses, had been arsey about me receiving home visits anymore (oops) Anyway, my leg looks awful, she had to use a larger dressing - eeeeeek!!!! I bet I don't feel as sore as Rob, who came off his bike on.....Mon? Poor guy, read his blog, to find out the gruesome details.

Barry hung on for me, we did the shops, my house and school. And whether I am in denial, but it really didn't phase me. The only time I feel nervy, is when I'm backing onto it with the cog (boom?) in between my knees, I reckon, it took me a little longer though. It was really great to see folk again.

I sensed an opportunity, for myself/Steve/CTC to speak about how cycling had empowered me, when I received an invite to a conference, in York. Again I took the 'Bull by the horns', phoned and asked them if they'd like me to bring my trike (or Jezz) to the event in May. Anyway, I think she liked the idea, because she offered a 15 minute slot, if it was me giving an individual talk. Or 3 /4 of an hour if it was Steve and I. I think this would be an excellent way of focusing, how inclusive cycling can be, and how incredibly empowering.

Tomorrow, I've got a nice young man coming to give me a price for concreting a metal bar in my shed, to padlock my bike to.

i LOVED TODAY

I LOVED TODAY :)

We woke bright and early, and the weather didn't really reflect my mood, because it was dank, and a little chilly. But not as cold as it's been, or is forecast. I didn't really care, because rain or shine I was gonna ride Jez today. I arrived at Cycle For Health, in a taxi paid for by the Health Champions. Barry, Louise and Ken, were the 3 cyclists I recognised, and we all had a good laugh at my bmx accident, that wasn't that funny really. :(

It felt weird backing onto Jezz, (having the spikes in between my knees, the very ones that 3 weeks ago had caused such damage) Anyway I had said that one of the things I had wanted to practice was getting on and off Jezz. And today, i was mostly working with .....John. (I feel like there should be a drum role) What a star, and how much ingenuity, does he have. He considered the problem, went and fetched a chunk of wood, and an axe, chopped at the wood, and hey presto, he'd got 2 chunks of wood?? He showed me where to place them so that I could lodge the brake on. And it doesn't move. Wow!!!
We rode round, meeting up with Ken, in the playground, it was there that I met my puncture also. Ken, kept testing me, and I've got to say anything I learnt from Fred, had gone. It's a brain thingy I suppose, but I do feel very stupid when I can't retain owt.


Apparently Barry is coming with me tomorrow, to do the school run and to fix my mirror on. Which leaves me no excuse not to go further afield.

I was picked up by my taxi, courtessy of Health Champions, rushed home. Had 30mins till my next taxi picked me up to take me to a fantastic afternoon, where I was a case study for 3 folk to take down details and come up with a care package for me. It was great, they laughed at all my jokes, :D and said that the afternoon had flown, and didn't seem like work. They were great, so welcoming, it would have been very difficult for a shy person not to feel valued, and confident.

Now......My wee boys gone to Beavers, My big girls a Sheffield sports champ :)

My leg looks dreadful, the gps phoned and told me, I needed to double up on my anti biotics. Which Julie Andrews fetched for me, because she's nice.

West Country Recumbents, have been in touch to say they are on the case.

And thank you everyone for taking such an interest:) It makes me happy.

ICDH

Today, I woke, and my very friend had slept the night, downstairs. I was sad going down, because he's like a Central heating radiator, that needs bleeding. Instead of radiating positivity, he drains and leaks negativity. Anyway, the children had stayed at their Dads, so that was cool. I just had to worry about myself, when he'd left at 8.30.

I entered the ICDH class, and immediately my mood lifted, because everyone either had enough awareness, to know that feeling positive about yourself was good for your soul. Or perhaps they recognised that it was something they needed, to learn to do. And they were doing something very positive by attending the 2nd week, of the course.

The lesson passed quickly, and it was good to know a little bit more about my fellow classmates. And infact reveal, a bit more of me!!

We were asked to describe our own view on health and well being.

I know, I dont eat well, but having 2 young children, I know the importance to their energy levels, the impact food can have. And always buy decafinated coke etc. And I do try to limit ther amount of sweets, (quite difficult) Unfortunately for myself, I do recognise there is room for improvement. Especially since my cycling accident. And I aint been burning any calories on the school run.

I do think though, one of the most important factors is to be aware. So that 'you' recognise, the need for improvement.

Personally my own health has always been fair, despite having controlled epilepsy, and no spleen. Which effects my auto immune system.

I have a happy disposition now, but I haven't always been that way. When my ex husband left me, 3 years ago, I wallowed in pity, crying everyday for 16months. But I'm so glad I did, because I now believe I grieved over the death of that relationship. And could begin another one without any hang ups. But I also believe an essential part of me being ready for a new relationship. Is not needing one, if that makes sense? I now have my own identity, and I like Caroline.

I didn't cycle to school, I bottled it!! I'm still scared of knocking my leg, but I have booked my taxi to take myself and Jezz (my trikle) to Cycle For Health tomorrow. So although nervous, I know there will be plenty of folk to provide reassurance tomorrow.

:)

I thrive on other humans, and choice I reckon. Because I've saved mega bucks on not having a social life for 6 weeks, I treated the kids and I to a Chinese meal. We got a taxi there, to see how bad the pavements were, and wey hey! I was brave enough to use public transport back. I never thought I'd be happy about catching the bus, but it felt great! and I felt free. I think tomorrow, I may try and get Jez out. If my drive has cleared, it must be the only place on earth that's still too slippy with compressed snow.

And I was so happy , because not before time, I purchased a massive year planner. I feel happy and organised now.

But.... the nurse called today, and was not happy about my leg. In my brief stint, working as a nursing assistant, I recognise my leg as becoming ulcerated. So hopefully once I can get some blood flowing to my lower limb, it will help.

I've spoilt everyone today, I am much happier :) I've been a right miserable git.

:(

I cried today, because of my leg, it's just not getting any better, in fact it's getting decidedly worst. And the fact that it's so slippy outside makes it impossible to walk or ride, even to the local shops. I did comment to Steve (ctc) who phoned offering support, that none of this would have happened if I hadn't got into cycling!! To which he replied, urm dont you mean, if you hadn't have done bmx ramps on your recumbent?..........yeah ok, I suppose he's right.

I miss going to school so much, and seeing the crowd of Mums who've supported me since my journey began, when I used to wheeze looking like a tomato, sweating profusely for a fat lass. As I strained the last few yards into the school drive. I arranged 'to be called for' (how old am I?) at 5, and I'd nip to the pub, for tea with my kids and a few others.

Dave (pedal ready) to tell me it was thawing outside, I am touched that so many folk seem to care.